The most wonderful thing that can happen to a couple is to conceive. That moment when a man and a woman find out that they are going to become parents is absolutely priceless, pure delight and nevertheless, lots of thoughts about the future and the number of responsibilities met on the way.
The Satterfield’s have been married for over three years when they started trying to conceive, and after many failed attempts, negative pregnancy tests over and over again, they began infertility treatments because of the low chances of conceiving naturally. Nothing seemed to work and there was only one kind of treatment left on the list, which Jessica said to be a little aggressive. But something happened before starting that medical procedure.
The Satterfield’s attended an orphan care meeting at a church and changed their minds. God lead them to that place for a reason, and they knew what to do next, even if they were a bit scared, they continued with the adoption process with consistent help from a local agency and the big day came soon. In December 2013, they finally met their adopted daughter, a beautiful cute girl named Grace Selah. The healthy 6 pound 5-ounce angel was in the right arms, they were overwhelmed with joy and a strong feeling of hope.
They adopted again soon enough, and after that, they were contacted to be informed that Selah would have a sibling named Micah. And that’s how the couple became the happy & proud parents of three beautiful children. They clearly had some challenges along the way, as you can imagine lots of people were looking weird at them because of the color, and it’s true that they don’t look like other families. But the color is not important at all. We are all the same on the inside. Jessica Satterfield shared her thoughts regarding this situation on her blog, and she said:
“I am a white mama to three beautiful, black children. And although most of the time we don’t notice, others around us do. We walk into stores or restaurants and people stare or give us a double glance. I choose to believe it’s because they think our family is beautiful and are curious about our story.”
It’s true that they don’t look the same, the parents and the children, but does that really matter? It’s not like the color will make them any less of their children. And in regards to what people think about it, they can do it for as long as they want to! They love each other and that’s the most important thing.
Jessica says how she glanced in the mirror one night while she was gently placing the children to bed and she remembered that she didn’t grow them in her belly. It’s true that when its pure love, you don’t care anymore about these aspects. The Satterfield’s have moments when they forget that they were adopted. For them, they are just children and that’s it. As they grew up, the children started asking questions about the differences, and the couple always provided details and made them understand the true values in life. They honor their family’s diversity.
The Satterfield’s made sure that their children understood and know how to respond in situations where they are asked about their family. Understanding how to talk well about what makes them unique and in such cases to answer with confidence.
An important moment occurred when one of the adopted kids was asked by another kid “Why is your mom white and you’re brown?”, the boy responded, “Families don’t have to match to be a family.”. Now that’s a confident and clear message he said, so simple and on point, proving that love doesn’t have a color. The parents were so proud of his statement.
Jessica has a beautiful way to describe it: “To the world, our family doesn’t look like we match. But we know, we match hearts.”
We are living difficult times, indeed, and its truly relieving to see that people better understand the real values in life and don’t tag people after their color, race, or sexual orientation. Please share this with your family and friends! The world needs to read such stories and deepen the understanding of what means to be a real human being.